It’s been an entire week and no posts! The wood flooring has been installed over at The Ashland House.
Here are some rules I’ve created based on the things I’ve learned throughout this process that I’d like to share with you:
Designing and renovating a home is like raising a child – if you’re going to pay to raise my child then you are allowed to have an opinion otherwise step back and let me do my thing. There are 3 exceptions to this rule:
#1. I’ve asked you for your opinion or
#2. I’ve paid you for your opinion or
#3. You are married to me (even this might not work in your favor – love you Parchy).
I’m usually much nicer than this rule would indicate. See Rule #6 for more explanation.
Don’t ask someone with a very different design aesthetic for their opinion. Chances are they will give their opinion and it will pull you away from your vision. It’s not this person’s fault. It’s YOUR FAULT for asking them. You should know better. When are you going to learn? Seriously. When are you going to learn! Then you will have to keep asking people for their opinion until you find an opinion that will validate what you wanted to do in the first place. Save yourself time and energy. Follow this rule.
If you lose one night’s sleep over a design decision that’s fairly normal. If you lose more than one you need to get real honest about the situation quick. If something’s bugging you at this point it will probably get worse as time goes on. This happened with our town home. I had this “carpenter” make a built-in for our living room. I wanted crown moulding with a return at the top. He brutalized our fireplace mantle and provided the most sorry excuse for crown moulding I have had the displeasure of laying eyes on. I was younger and more polite then so when I asked him about the crown moulding and he looked at me like I was the crazy one I accepted his mediocre work. Which brings me to
If you want mediocre design then have people with a mediocre skill set work on your project. Luckily for us we have people that are experienced, proficient and take pride in their work.
If you get stuck ask yourself if your choice makes sense. Does it make sense to put a Subzero refrigerator in a one bedroom condo? Probably not. Does it make sense to put 9″ crown moulding in a bungalow? Probably not. Does it make sense to put shag carpet in a Victorian? You get the point.
Warn your loved ones that they might confuse you with a fascist dictator at times (See Rule #1 – I sound like a fascist dictator). There was a time when I became the self-appointed Chief of The Chicago Brick Police. Then after being quite obnoxious I realized that if someone wants to paint their brick that’s on them. It’s their brick. Not mine. STAY AWAY FROM MY BRICK though.
If you haven’t figured it out yet I wrote these rules for me. It’s not you. It’s me. You’re perfect.
Thanks for reading and have a Joyful Day!